Mens Spiritual Advice

Mind. Body. Soul.


You Were Meant to Be Happy!

By Dr. Karin Luise

What if you accepted that you were truly meant to be happy? What if you believed that you did not have to suffer badness to earn goodness? What if you accepted that it is your birthright to have a life that is fun?

Well, it is!

This is my favorite realization since having a spiritual awakening. It shifts the old paradigms of fear and suffering on their heads; they are no longer required at the vibration you have found! (Unless, of course, you create that as your reality. . . but why would you?) You have the choice!

Here’s why.

When you were born you miraculously came from nonphysical.

A divine sacred soul straight from a divine sacred place. You were a spiritual being that came into physical existence. You came directly from God, “Source,” and you brought part of Source Energy with you. It was all you knew; it was all IN you!

From birth, you emanated with a full essence of your own self-worth. You possessed total self-acceptance, unconditional love and honest emotional expression. You emerged loving, accepting and celebrating every nook and cranny of yourself and your spectacular world.

You also expected others to have the same energy/vibration as you. When you met someone or something that did not agree with your vibration, you let everyone around you know! That was the honest and emotional expression that you were born trusting.

Each of us arrived here reaching toward things that bring us pleasure and moving away from things that bring us negativity. Our emotions give our bodies signals when things feel right or ‘off ’ and when we were young; we did not hesitate to express that. Until we were taught differently . . .

Think about any baby you know. Do you ever see them having self-doubt, hiding their emotions or choosing to martyr their joy so that someone else in the room is happy?

No! That is the way we are born; curious, self-loving, world-exploring, passionate, feeling, center-of-the-universe human beings. Over time the experiences we have within our cultures, families, religions and schools unravel our natural magnetism to happiness. They teach us we need to stuff our feelings, please others, and suffer before we can experience joy. We are taught to trust others over ourselves.

But this can change as soon as you get it.

What if you decided to go back to accepting and trusting yourself above all? What if you reminded yourself that “self-first does not mean self-ish” and started following your own emotional guidance system FIRST?

What if you realized that by seeking what you authentically want, you are not only creating more joy but you are raising your vibration and the vibration of the world around you? What if we ALL started accepting ourselves with love and then gave everyone around us the same grace?

You got it. All areas of our lives would see an energy shift that would reflect the true essence we were born with: Source Energy.

Total acceptance. Total love. Total freedom to be who we were each born to be – HAPPY.

About the Author: Dr. Karin Luise, Ph.D., is an award-winning author and sought after integrative therapist, whole life coach and inspirational speaker. Her passion is helping others find freedom on their soul’s pathway, living life with more clarity, inspiration and happiness. She teaches and shares her message through work with private clients, corporate groups, seminars, retreats, personal growth courses and group sessions.

She is the host of the popular “The Dr. Karin Show” at The Lighter Side Network, in Atlanta, Georgia. Her show’s theme is ‘where the mind, body and heart meet the soul,’ as she focuses on holistic health, heart-centered living and harnessing sacred power. Dr. Karin presents life-inspiring teachings and conversations with leading-edge visionaries, spiritual teachers and awakened thought leaders.

Dr. Karin co-authored the award-winning book The Fatherless Daughter Project: Understanding Our Losses and Reclaiming Our Lives (2016; Avery Press: Penguin Random House). She writes a regular column, “Ask Dr. Karin” in Southern Seasons Magazine, is a featured blogger on The Huffington Post, and shares inspiration on her own webpage

She has appeared on a wide range of media outlets, including Redbook, FoxNews, The Jenny McCarthy Show, HuffPost Live,, The Washington Post, The Examiner, Fox & Friends, Coffee with America, About Families, Sharecare Radio, OMTimes Radio, the Atlanta Journal & Constitution, Best Self Magazine SoulFeed, and many others.

Combining decades of work in the educational, clinical and spiritual fields, along with a host of transformational life experiences, Dr. Karin works from a holistic perspective. She recognizes that the mind, body, emotions and soul work together to create the state of whole body health for each person.

Karin joyfully resides in Atlanta with her 9 year old boy-girl twins, 7 year old son, and rescue dogs, Tucker and Tula. Her happy places are doing yoga, immersing in nature, hosting dinner parties, and dancing with her kids to 80’s music on the couch.

How to Train Yourself to Stay Focused



It’s a common problem these days: switching between browser tabs and apps on your phone, checking social media and messages and email, thinking about the million things you have to do but putting them off …

Anything but staying focused on one task at a time.

And it’s hard to break out of the mental habit of switching, being distracted, letting the monkey mind jump from one shiny thing to the next.

So how do you train your mind to stay more focused? It’s possible to get better at focusing, but I don’t recommend expecting to be focused anywhere close to 100 percent of the time. Not even 80 percent, and perhaps not 50 percent. Just more than now, which is more than enough to see big differences in effectiveness in your day.

Recently I took on a coaching client, and his biggest area for improvement is focus. So I gave him a plan, and I’m going to share it with you here.

Start with the Why

Why should you care about this? It’s best to give this a moment’s thought before diving into any plan, because when things get uncomfortable, you have to know your Why. Otherwise you’ll crumble at the first urge to switch.

This is important because constant switching and distraction leads to your time being frittered away, so that the day goes by and you’ve barely done anything important. You’ve procrastinated on the big tasks to take care of the little ones, and worse yet, squandered the day in distractions. Your life is too precious to waste, so you want to use your days better.

Staying focused on one task at a time, at least for some of the day, will help you get the important things done: writing, programming, studying, taking care of finances, creating of any kind, and so on. Those things tend to get pushed back, but staying on task will increase your effectiveness with the most important things by leaps and bounds.

If you’re feeling stressed out by all you have to do, unhappy with your lack of focus … then this one skill will help you turn that around in a big way.

So let’s move on to the how.

The Method

It’s fairly simple:

  1. Pick an MIT. First thing in the morning, before you get on your phone or online, think about what you need to do. What would make the biggest difference in your life, your work? If you have several, it doesn’t matter … just randomly choose one for now. You can get to the others later. Don’t waste your time in indecision, the point is to practice with one task. This one task you choose for today is your one Most Important Task (MIT).
  2. Do a 15-minute focus session. As soon as you start working for the day (maybe after getting ready, eating, yoga/meditation/workout, whatever), clear away all browser tabs, applications, and anything you don’t need for your MIT for today. Start a timer for 15 minutes.
  3. You only have two choices. For these 15 minutes, you can not switch to anything else (no checking email, messages, social media, doing other work tasks, cleaning your desk, etc.). You can only a) work on your MIT, or b) sit there and do nothing. Those are your only options. Watch your urges to switch, but don’t follow them.
  4. Report to an accountability partner. My coaching client is going to succeed in large part because he has me to keep him accountable. Find a partner who will keep you accountable. Create an online spreadsheet or use an accountability app that they can see (he introduced me to Commit to 3, for example). After your focus session each day, check in that you did it.

That’s it! One focus session a day for at least two weeks. If you do great, add a second focus session each day, with a 10-minute break in between sessions. If you have any trouble at all, stick to one session a day for the first month before adding a second.

After six weeks to two months, you should be fairly good at doing two 15-minute focus sessions, and you can add a third. Then a fourth when that gets easy. Stop there for awhile, and then add another session in the afternoon.

Some Important Tips

With that simple method in mind, I have a few key ideas to share:

  1. Turn off your Internet. Like disconnect from wifi or turn off your router, or use an Internet blocker. Turn off your phone. Close your browser and all applications you don’t need. This is the ideal method. If you need the Internet for your MIT, then close all tabs but the one or two that you need for the task, and don’t let yourself open anything else.
  2. If you turn off the Internet, keep a pencil and paper nearby. If you have an idea, a task you need to remember, anything you want to look up … jot it on the paper. You can get to those later. Don’t allow yourself to switch.
  3. Don’t allow yourself to rationalize putting off the session. It’s easy to say, “I’ll get to it in a bit,” but then you’re putting it off until late morning, and then the afternoon, and finally you’re doing it at 8pm just to say you did it. This defeats the purpose of the practice. Watch your rationalizations, and don’t fall for them.
  4. That said, don’t aim for being perfect. There are some days when you just can’t do it — for me, it’s when I travel or have guests. If something big has come up where you don’t have time, don’t stress about missing a day. Get back on it as soon as you can. Worrying about keeping a streak going is counterproductive.
  5. If 15 minutes is too long, just do 10 minutes. If that’s too long, do 5 minutes.
  6. Increase your number of sessions as slowly as you can. There’s no rush to do more. Focus on building a solid foundation.

OK, you have the method. Now get on the practice!

The School of Hard Knocks and the Holy Spirit..

Let’s “Kick the Bobo”…
What is the Bobo?  Some “serious stuff” that an older person has gained in wisdom that he wants to share with a younger person.  Yes, that “Bobo”…
That uncle/nephew, father/son, passing down of knowledge, wisdom and understanding of things they know for sure ( or thought they knew for sure). It’s my intentions to have dialogue that will illuminate the Power of the Holy Spirit…
hence… ” Men’s Spiritual Advice”.
God bless!